This is one post that I really didn't want to write. I had been contemplating writing a post about a women's life since last December (Yeah. Since Nirbaya happened!) but I have been really patient. I really didn't want to vent out all that anger.
So why all the anger?! In light of recent "EVENTS" all around the country and if you really aren't aware why a young women is beyond angry you can as well stop watching television,quit reading news papers and lock yourself up at home.
What makes being a "FEMALE" difficult? I thought all humans came from a womb and were all made out of same bones & flesh. But it really doesn't feel that way. Its like men dropped from sky and women were found in dustbins. That's virtually how we are treated. No offense.
When a girl baby is born how many of the parents are really happy? (Mine were! I can assure that! I am just lucky to be among the small group of parents who really love a girl child!) They bicker and complain how they have to turn into hardworking donkeys and ants to get her married. We can't really blame them can we? For that is a true fact. But then there are other parents who are ecstatic about a girl child. For she is a real doll who can be cherished for a life time. A true blessing who is any day more caring then a man.(Fact you know & it isn't open for a debate!)
And there are this other class of people who name her "nakusa" (meaning Unwanted) or worse kill her or dump her in the nearest dustbin. Such people needn't be punished by the law, their deed of deserting a beautiful girl will taunt them for sure some day.
As she grows, her life becomes no easy. She is "trained" to do the household work. She is always told there is no point in being educated and that she will always be that slave who slogs hard. And again I won't blame a mom for instilling that ideology in her daughter. After all she didn't have it any better and she knows her daughter won't either. She is just preparing her to face the worst.
That is just a quarter of the big picture. I'd take cooking and cleaning any day over that jeering and abusing that a women faces.
Venturing out all alone after 7 PM is a nightmare. Reason? Men in street corner calling her names and trying to 'feel' anything that looks remotely like a "female". Age or looks makes no difference.
Does it get any better in the morning?! No way. Ask any women commuting by public transport (This is a really personal issue for me). The bus is just packed during peak hours and some perverts use this a perfect excuse to grope and feel a women in the pretext of accidentally falling over. I think women in turn should wear stilettos just for bus rides and "stamp" such perverts accidentally or probably even use those in a "Creative" way (Yeah! I know what you are thinking. I'll just leave it to imagination! I can fill this entire post with many such ideas you know)
After that nightmare ride she reaches her work place, which again won't leave her alone. Some men can't really take a women making it big in her career. After all she is a "Women" and should be confined to kitchen and dishes. Hence once again she has to fight. Fight hard to "prove" herself though she is equally qualified as the men there ( Some times more than them too!)
Then comes the biggest event of her life. The Marriage. The Wedding. That one event for which her parents had big dreams, worked hard and slogged like a donkey. But then what is the fruit of such hard work? Demands by the grooms family,absurd comments by relatives who always find faults and ruin a perfect moment of happiness, mounting wedding expenses, health issues due to constant tension and pressure. I thought hard work always paid in a good way. Realized its opposite in the case of a wedding.
I really don't understand one thing. Logically you pay for something only when you buy it. That's what "trade" is all about right? But when a bride's family pays the groom in gold and cash and also bear the wedding expenses (Phew! Imagine! 500 odd people minimum eating an elaborate 7 course meal 3 times a day for 2 days minimum. All courtesy the poor dad of the bride! Makes me think its a good thing to be a guy) shouldn't the groom come along? Why does a girl have to leave behind every single thing she cared for about 23 to 24 years only to be treated like a slave who does all the household work, puts up with all sorts of comments from the Mother-In-Law, the Father-In-Law and worse, the Husband himself.
Shouldn't the so called "life partner" be beside her and support her in each and everything?! If I go talk all this to my mom she'd probably take me to a psychiatrist and get my mental health checked up (I can almost hear her telling "Either you are barking mad or you probably had an head injury!"). Yet again you can't really blame her for that's how the "society" works.
I can probably just go on and on ranting about all the injustice we face simply because we are "WOMEN". Its not easy being a women at all. Its not that men haven't changed over the ages and begun treating women better. Its just that, the progress is way too slow. By the time men realize what injustice they are inflicting upon a women in some way, I fear the entire species of "FEMALES" would be extinct.
P.S. IF YOU ARE MAN AND YOU FEEL INSULTED BY THIS POST THEN YOU REALLY HAVE BEEN A REASON FOR SOME WOMEN TO BE ANGRY JUST LIKE I AM.
P.P.S THERE ARE MEN WHO REALLY RESPECT WOMEN AND ARE MIRROR OF ALL ABOVE MENTIONED KIND, I REALLY SALUTE SUCH MEN! THEY ARE A RARE BREED!
